The Monday after Father’s Day, I watched the Mormon Tabernacle Choir’s 2012 Father’s Day special that had been published less than a week earlier on YouTube. The words and music uncovered memories and feelings I had not expressed before. I hope it’s not too late now.
The new father I wish to honor held his newborn daughter in his arms and looked into her eyes with deep love and awe. As the work began of raising her, he shouldered new responsibilities while juggling his university studies, full-time work and other family needs. He carried extra laundry to the laundromat on weekly trips he and his wife made and later used the family’s limited funds to buy a washing machine.
A couple of years later, the young father held another precious newborn daughter with loving tenderness and joy. Love doubled in their home as did demands on his time and resources. After graduation, he secured a new job and moved the family into their own home. He worked at his job then tamed the weeds at home and made the yard a lovely place. He put in clothesline poles and strung the lines. A dryer was out of the question.
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Akilah Bolden-Monifa’s June 6 “Camera” guest opinion, “Study reveals same-sex parenting good for kids,” brought my attention to a longitudinal lesbian family study published recently in “Pediatrics,” the official journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics.
The study set out to document the psychological adjustment of adolescents conceived through donor insemination by lesbian mothers from conception to adulthood. So, between 1986 and 1992, 154 prospective lesbian mothers volunteered for this ongoing study where the “offspring” provided the data through interviews and questionnaires, the mothers through interviews and Child Behavior Checklists.
The results are no surprise given the sources. They have a strong incentive to show themselves in “good light” and the mothers have “an enormous political incentive” to “ensure upbringing is exemplary,” as noted by Neil E. Whitehead, research assistant from New Zealand, in response to the study. Continue reading
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As there is no official Father’s Day song, I want to embed one into your head. The favored piece is the aria, “O Mio Babbino Caro” (Oh My Dear Papa), from the opera, “Gianni Schicchi” (1918) by Giacomo Puccini. In the opera, Lauretta sings a plea to her father for permission to go with the man she loves to buy a wedding ring.
Though I’m not advocating society go back to the days when fathers hold power over who should marry, society has moved too far from children asking their fathers even for advice. As you listen to the Norwegian sophrano Sissel Kyrkjebø sing, think what plea do you have for your father?
I know plenty of children who wish their fathers were in their lives more and plenty of fathers who miss their children. Also, I know God, Our Heavenly Father, would like to hear our pleas to him as well.
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I’m thankful for fathers and ask for blessings for them. A father recently purchased a bike cart for his son and a bike for himself so they could ride off to the park. That father finds numerous ways to spend time with his son. Young fathers at the grocery store make sure they get grocery carts with cars on the front to make their children happy. Please bless these fathers. Continue reading
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